Leadership Habits I Learnt in a Club

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This was the 2006 Starehe Boys' firefighting squad. Photo credit: Fred Kithikii, the squad commander.

During one supper we had in 2002 when I was in Form 1 at Starehe, I heard the school Survival Club was conducting interviews that night for first formers wishing to join the club. I went for the interview and magically passed it.

As a member of the club, I went for several hikes and camps. Well, I didn't enjoy the hikes, for I found them gruelling. But the camps were fun, especially the teasing we did and the ditties we sang as we gambolled around campfires.

One tease a club member made on a leader stands out in my memory. He teased him this way in Sheng: "You see the grandma of [Commando X] - she grew thin and thinner and thinner and thinner till she disappeared!"

So much did I enjoy Survival camps that I wanted to become a club leader. But I gave up on that ambition, a wise decision as I wouldn't have withstood the school firefighting squad endurance tests that Survival leaders were expected to go through.

But all was not lost because when I looked back on my Survival days, I distilled the following leadership habits I will apply in my future family, God willing:
  • Rising early
  • Being physically fit
  • Creating time for family fun
  • Ensuring everybody in the family has a meal
  • Keeping children from noticing what my wife and I do in the bedroom
And how did I distill those leadership habits? From the way club leaders conducted themselves and the things they had us do when we went for camps and hikes, like rising early for roadworks.

Perhaps inspired by those memories, I wanted to memorize the Survival mission statement. I went to Starehe, only to find the Survival clubroom had been relocated from the cottage we used in my time to a small room partitioned within an old classroom.

When I informed Ken Ogutu, one of the 2002 Survival leaders, about the change, he told me they used to call the Survival clubroom the Bush Embassy, a name that amused me since it implies one had to get a visa from the clubroom before going to the bush.

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The Brotherhood in Starehe

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One of the best high schools in Kenya, Starehe Boys' Centre uses a buddy system to pair newly-admitted first formers with second formers. When I joined the school in January 2002, my second former was Leon Osumba.

An amiable lad, Osumba introduced me to some housemates, including a brilliant fellow called George Waithaka. Several years later, Waithaka became a pillar of strength when I was applying to several American colleges. He was in MIT then.

Our house captain in 2002 was Michael Mwangale who held meetings with us first formers during our first weeks in the school. He just spoke his mind in the meetings, like telling us he found it unwise for someone to ruin their life with two minutes of sexual ecstasy.

Perhaps the Starehian who impacted my life the most was Jesse Nyoro. Six years my senior, he introduced me to music teachers when he heard I could play the piano. Later on, he encouraged me to accompany the school on the piano during evening assemblies.

Nyoro has remained my friend over the years. The other day, he called me to ask how I'm doing. When I told him I'm working hard while praying for breakthroughs, he asked me, "What breakthroughs are you praying for, Thuita? Don't you know that your breakthroughs happened a long time ago?"

He then told me a story in the Bible about two disciples who walked with Jesus without realizing they were with Him till He gave them bread. I think the point Nyoro was making is that God has already blessed me.

But when I was about to clarify to him that I meant financial breakthroughs, he cut me short the moment I mentioned the word 'money' and said, "Thuita, money only accounts for 10% of happiness. If you have food, clothes and good health - those alone are big breakthroughs."

That Nyoro can call me and share such wisdom speaks volumes about the brotherhood in Starehe - the kind I would encourage in every family, company and even in the whole world because, if I may borrow the words of MLK, we will perish as fools if we don't learn to live together as brothers.

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Bible Quote

"Always be full of joy in the Lord; I say it again, rejoice! Let everyone see that you are unselfish and considerate in all you do... Don't worry about anything; instead pray about everything; tell God your needs and don't forget to thank Him for His answers. If you do this, you will experience God's peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand."

~Phillipians 4:4-7 (TLB)

About the Author

Name: Thuita J. Maina
Marital status: Single
Lives in: Kiserian, Rift Valley, Kenya
Mission: To inspire the world to godly living, one person at a time.

Just for Laughs

There was this drunkard called Azoge who loved drinking at Josiah's Bar. On being told a certain Hon. Nanga was flying to America to be conferred a law degree so that he could be admitted to the bar, Azoge replied, "Why fly all the way to America to be admitted to the bar while you can get into Josiah's Bar any time?"



The 7 Deadly Sins

  1. Pride
  2. Envy
  3. Gluttony
  4. Lust
  5. Anger
  6. Greed
  7. Sloth

Author's Note

I am learning to treat life as a journey, not a destination; I have therefore given up the things that weighed me down and I am now living my life to the fullest because the tomorrow I had always hoped to live my dreams may never be mine.

Fun Facts

  1. The fear of having no cell-phone service, running out of battery, or losing sight of your phone is called Nomophobia, reportedly affecting 66% of people.
  2. A single Google search needs more computing power than it took to send Apollo 11 to the moon. The Apollo computer was less equipped than a modern toaster.
  3. Besides being some of the biggest names in the tech industry, HP, Apple, Google and Microsoft share another commonality. They all started in garages.
~Extracted from Codingforums.com

Health Tips

"So many of us take for granted the wonderful construction of the human body and the workings of its various parts. Some of us even expect it to function efficiently with less than the minimum care and attention. Learn the much you can about your body and how the care of it can help give you that greatest blessing of all - good health."

~From Your Body (A Ladybird Book)

Wonders of the Modern World

  1. The Simplon Tunnel
  2. The Sky-scrapers of New York
  3. The Boulder Dam of Colorado
  4. The Panama Canal
  5. The Golden Gate Bridge
  6. The Taj Mahal at Agra in India
  7. The North Sea Oil Drilling Rigs

The Kind of Leaders We Need

"My life in politics was a joy. I loved campaigns and I loved governing. I always tried to keep things moving in the right direction, to give more people a chance to live their dreams, to lift people's spirits, and to bring them together. That's the way I kept score."

~Bill Clinton

Scientific Marvels

  1. Space travel
  2. Heart surgery
  3. Fibre-optics communication
  4. Concorde
  5. Radios
  6. Computers
  7. Anesthetics

My Supreme Desire

To borrow the words of Elbert Hubbard, my supreme desire is to radiate health, cheerfulness, calm courage and goodwill. I wish to live without fear, hate, guilt, worry and jealousy; to be honest, natural, confident, clean in mind and body - ready to say "I do not know" if it be so; to treat all men with kindness; and to meet any loss, failure, criticism and rejection unabashed and unafraid.



Greatest American Presidents

  1. Abraham Lincoln
  2. George Washington
  3. Thomas Jefferson
  4. Franklin Roosevelt
  5. Theodore Roosevelt
  6. Woodrow Wilson
  7. Andrew Jackson

Making Peace With the Past

"Dwell not on your past. Use it to illustrate a point, then leave it behind. Nothing really matters except what you do now in this instant of time. From this moment onwards you can be an entirely different person, filled with love and understanding, ready with an outstretched hand, uplifted and positive in every thought and deed."

~Eileen Caddy

Toughest Colleges to Get Into

  1. MIT
  2. Princeton
  3. Harvard
  4. Yale
  5. Stanford
  6. Brown
  7. Columbia

Why You Should Trust God

"Men and women who turn their lives over to God will find out that He can make a lot more out of their lives than they can. He will deepen their joys, expand their vision, quicken their minds, strengthen their muscles, lift their spirits, multiply their blessings, increase their opportunities and pour out peace."

~Ezra Taft Benson

The 7 Greatest Scientists

  1. Albert Einstein
  2. Isaac Newton
  3. Galileo Galilei
  4. Nikola Tesla
  5. Aristotle
  6. Archimedes
  7. Charles Darwin

You Matter

"Always be yourself. Never try to hide who you are. The only shame is to have shame. Always stand up for what you believe in. Always question what other people tell you. Never regret the past; it's a waste of time. There's a reason for everything. Every mistake, every moment of weakness, every terrible thing that has happened to you, grow from it. The only way you can ever get the respect of others is when you show them that you respect yourself and most importantly, do your thing and never apologize for being you."

~Unknown

The Most Industrialized Nations

  1. United States
  2. Japan
  3. Germany
  4. France
  5. United Kingdom
  6. Italy
  7. Canada

Keys to Success

"...in his effort to withstand temptation, to economize, to exercise thrift, to disregard the superficial for the real - the shadow for the substance; to be great yet small, in his effort to be patient in the laying of a firm foundation; to so grow in skill and knowledge that he shall place his services in demand by reason of his intrinsic and superior worth. This is the key that unlocks every door of opportunity, and all others fail."

~Booker T. Washington

The 7 Social Sins

  1. Politics without principle
  2. Wealth without work
  3. Pleasure without conscience
  4. Knowledge without character
  5. Commerce without morality
  6. Worship without sacrifice
  7. Science without humanity

Cherish What You Love

"Cherish your visions, cherish your ideals, cherish the music that stirs in your heart, the beauty that forms in your mind, the loveliness that drapes your purest thoughts - for out of them will grow all heavenly environment, of these if you but remain true to them, your world will at last be built."~James Allen

The World's Largest Cities

  1. London in England
  2. New York in the United States
  3. Tokyo in Japan
  4. Berlin in Germany
  5. Chicago in the United States
  6. Shanghai in China
  7. Paris in France

Benefits of Optimism

"In terms of success, optimistic people out perform their pessimistic colleagues. Research shows that they are consistently promoted higher and make more money while working fewer hours than those who think pessimistically. Optimists also contribute more significantly to social progress. It is the optimists who start and run successful companies, who win elections and carry out reforms, and who make breakthroughs in the realms of science and technology."

~Pepe Minambo

The World's Greatest Lakes

  1. Caspian Sea in the Commonwealth of Independent States, C.I.S. (formerly U.S.S.R)
  2. Lake Superior in North America
  3. Victoria Nyanza in Central Africa
  4. Aral Sea in C.I.S.
  5. Lake Huron in North America
  6. Lake Michigan in North America

Demonstrating His Love

"Take your communication for instance - the way you address others. It ought to be with loving, gracious and edifying words. Never talk people down. Never use words that hurt and demean people. Communicate excellently with others without destroying their self-image or making them feel sorry for themselves. Talk to people in a way that they never forget the excellence of your words, the love and grace of Christ that you communicated. It's how God wants us to love."

~Dr. Chris Oyakhilome

World's Longest Rivers

  1. Missouri-Mississipi (U.S.)
  2. Amazon (Brazil)
  3. Nile (Egypt)
  4. Yangtse (China)
  5. Lena (Russia)
  6. Zaire (Central Africa)
  7. Niger (West Africa)