Creating a Beautiful Family Culture

Recently when I read Covey's "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families", I learnt that all families go through problems. But we can still choose to pass on a legacy of love and kindness if we come from a dysfunctional family.
To help us leave such a legacy, Covey distilled seven habits we can cultivate in our families so as to create a beautiful culture. Okay, let me mention the habits.
The first habit is being kind to one another, apologizing when we offend each other, keeping the promises we make and not talking ill of anyone behind their backs. And though it's important to correct those who are erring, we should love and accept each family member as they are.
The second habit is having a family mission statement that inspires each member to conduct themselves virtuously. A family mission statement, which everyone in the family should take part in crafting, can include values such as honesty, diligence and orderliness.
While adhering to a family mission statement, it is crucial that we set a good example. If, for instance, we want our children to be avid readers, they ought to see us reading books.
The third habit is creating time for one-on-one bonding and family get-togethers. One-on-one bonding times, during which a parent goes on a date with one child, can be helpful in reducing sibling rivalry.
The fourth habit is understanding one another, what Covey referred to as win-win thinking. Understanding one another entails knowing the needs, wants and concerns of each family member. It also entails refraining from comparing one member with another.
The fifth habit is seeking first to understand and then to be understood. This is especially essential for parents. As married couples, parents should set aside time to be with each other - times when they share their dreams and fears.
The sixth habit is learning to value - even celebrate - our differences. Each family member is unique and the fact that we see things differently is a strength, not a weakness, in a family set-up. We should therefore desist from molding any family member to our own image.
The seventh habit is creating time to renew ourselves as a family. Some of the ways we can renew ourselves include praying together, going for picnics and having family dinners during which we swap stories.
Those are the seven habits that Covey discussed in his book about highly effective families. Of course I've phrased them in the way I understood them. I implore you to buy the book and digest it in detail. It will be a valuable addition to your home library.
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